<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:googleplay="http://www.google.com/schemas/play-podcasts/1.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Square Peg Round Hole with Timothy Eldred : Podcast]]></title><description><![CDATA[Square Peg Round Hole with Timothy Eldred. Raw, confrontational, honest conversations on authenticity, identity, and the cost of performing a life that was never yours. For people done pretending.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/s/podcast</link><image><url>https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!5Py-!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F1e1317c5-bb7c-4a5a-970e-57e9c8c306c1_788x788.png</url><title>Square Peg Round Hole with Timothy Eldred : Podcast</title><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/s/podcast</link></image><generator>Substack</generator><lastBuildDate>Mon, 04 May 2026 22:44:46 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://blog.timothyeldred.com/feed" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><copyright><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred  •  1:1 Solutions Group LLC]]></copyright><language><![CDATA[en]]></language><webMaster><![CDATA[contact@timothyeldred.com]]></webMaster><itunes:owner><itunes:email><![CDATA[contact@timothyeldred.com]]></itunes:email><itunes:name><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></itunes:name></itunes:owner><itunes:author><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></itunes:author><googleplay:owner><![CDATA[contact@timothyeldred.com]]></googleplay:owner><googleplay:email><![CDATA[contact@timothyeldred.com]]></googleplay:email><googleplay:author><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></googleplay:author><itunes:block><![CDATA[Yes]]></itunes:block><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.31 | What Else Have You Been Missing?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Listen now (34 mins) | You've been seeing 60% of your life. Here's the other 40%.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep31-what-else-have-you-been-missing-2fc</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep31-what-else-have-you-been-missing-2fc</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 13 Apr 2026 17:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209801/195f3a58ff19ab376263c90912dd445a.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I put on a pair of glasses at a tulip farm in Oregon and saw yellow for the first time in my life. Reds were deep and multidimensional. It was an unreal experience.</p><p>Now, I'm 55 years old. I've been to six continents. Stood at desert sunrises and canyon overlooks and Italian lakes and said&#8212;beautiful, stunning, incredible&#8212;and meant every word. While seeing maybe 60% of what was actually there.</p><p>That's not the metaphor yet. But it becomes one.</p><p>Your nervous system does the same thing stress does to color vision&#8212;narrows your perception gradually, completely, and so quietly you stop noticing what's gone. You adapt. You compensate. And eventually, you call it adulthood.</p><p>In this episode, Tim talks about two moments&#8212;ten years apart, two different senses&#8212;when he found out the world was fuller than he'd been experiencing it. And why that kept bringing him back to one question: what else am I missing?&nbsp;</p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep31-what-else-have-you-been-missing-2fc?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep31-what-else-have-you-been-missing-2fc?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p>What are <em>you</em> missing?</p><p>He also takes a hard swing at the industry that profits from making the correction you need in life feel complicated. Because it isn't. The actual fix is embarrassingly simple and completely free. And it works when you put it into practice.</p><p><strong>Try this before the next episode:</strong> Tomorrow morning&#8212;before your phone, before coffee, before anything&#8212;go outside. Five minutes. Light in your eyes. Feet on the ground. One full breath all the way in and all the way out. Repeat until the filter clears. Then do it the next day. And the day after that. Until you see clearly.</p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://blog.timothyeldred.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://blog.timothyeldred.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p style="text-align: center;"><em>Find me at <a href="http://timothyeldred.com">timothyeldred.com</a>.</em></p><div><hr></div><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://a.co/d/0bLhSnzA" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!37Nf!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F0f9661f4-5602-4d3f-ae07-c5ae07582929_1200x494.jpeg 424w, 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He is the author of <a href="http://theshiftplan.com">The Shift</a> and <a href="https://a.co/d/0h8hMlcO">Alone Sucks</a>, founder of <a href="https://www.theauthenticpastor.com">The Authentic Pastor</a>, and host of <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/square-peg-round-hole/id1601924883">Square Peg Round Hole</a>&#8212;raw, confrontational conversations for people done pretending. His voice is honest. Sometimes uncomfortable. Always worth it.</em></p><div><hr></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.30 | Maybe]]></title><description><![CDATA[I got an email last week that I've read fifteen times.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep30-maybe-5ca</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep30-maybe-5ca</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 19 Mar 2026 14:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209802/abf22a6b9b285f7460d46e31c7ea6206.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I got an email last week that I've read fifteen times.</p><p>Someone had been reading the book. And at the end of it, they wrote: "Maybe I might just be okay."</p><p>I had to put my phone down.</p><p>A few days later, I got a phone call&#8212;different person, same word. After a long silence, they said, "Maybe I can do one more day."</p><p>Not a declaration. Not faith. Just &#8212; maybe.</p><p>This episode is about that word. What it costs to say it. Why we spend so much energy crushing it before it can get out. And why maybe is actually where everything real starts&#8212;not certainty, not breakthroughs, not finally having it figured out.</p><p>Just maybe.</p><p><strong><a href="https://a.co/d/00pfaNAA">Order The Shift on Amazon</a></strong></p><p><strong>SHOW NOTES</strong></p><p>We treat "maybe" like weakness. Like it's the embarrassing rest stop on the way to healing&#8212;something to push through as fast as possible so you can get back to certainty and confidence and having it together.</p><p>But Tim has sat across from enough people at the end of their rope to know that's exactly backwards. Performed certainty is just another word for performance. And performance is what's keeping people stuck.</p><p>In this episode, Tim talks about what it actually cost him to stop manufacturing certainty&#8212;and what he found when he finally did. He shares two stories about the same word landing in two completely different lives in the same week. And he makes the case that maybe isn't failure. Maybe is the most honest thing you can say. And honest is the only place real change has ever started.</p><p>If you've been performing certainty you don't have&#8212;this one's for you.</p><p><strong>Try this before the next episode:</strong> &#8594; The next time you feel a maybe surfacing&#8212;don't crush it. Don't reframe it. Don't find a verse or a framework to make it go away. Just let it be there for sixty seconds. See what happens when you stop fighting it.</p><p><em>The Shift</em> &#8212; Tim's book &#8212; is out now. <strong><a href="https://a.co/d/00pfaNAA">Order here</a>.</strong></p><p>Connect with Tim:</p><p><strong><a href="https://blog.timothyeldred.com/">Substack: Square Peg Round Hole</a></strong> or <strong><a href="http://timothyeldred.com">timothyeldred.com</a></strong></p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.29 | I Cussed God Out for Six Months]]></title><description><![CDATA[For thirty years, Tim Eldred taught people how to change.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep29-i-cussed-god-out-for-six-months-32b</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep29-i-cussed-god-out-for-six-months-32b</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 11 Mar 2026 18:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209803/9ded91186e4ffe50a3c06b06b5fdb825.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>For thirty years, Tim Eldred taught people how to change. He knew every framework. He'd stood on stages and moved rooms full of people.</p><p>And he couldn't change himself.</p><p>Not because he wasn't trying. He was trying everything&#8212;thinking harder, praying more, begging God to just let him feel like he was actually living his own life. Nothing moved.</p><p>Then his health collapsed. His faith crashed. He spent six months cussing God out like a sailor until even the anger ran out. And then he did the only thing he had left.</p><p>He got quiet.</p><p>This episode is what he found in the silence&#8212;and why everything he needed was already there. He was just too loud to hear it.</p><p><em>The Shift</em> releases March 15. <strong><a href="https://a.co/d/02yUBQNO">Order on Amazon</a></strong>.</p><p><strong><br>SHOW NOTES</strong></p><p>Most people who can't change aren't struggling with willpower. They're not faithless. They're not undisciplined. They're working on the wrong system.</p><p>In this episode, Tim Eldred stops teaching and starts confessing. Thirty years of knowing how to help people change. A health collapse that took everything. Six months of silence after he ran out of things to say to God. And the moment he realized that everything he'd been begging for was already built into him&#8212;he just couldn't hear it over all the noise.</p><p>This isn't a framework episode. It's the story underneath the framework. And it might be the most important one yet.</p><p>If you've ever begged God&#8212;or the universe, or your therapist, or yourself&#8212;to just finally change, and nothing held, this episode is for you.</p><p>Try this before the next episode:</p><p>&#8594; Find five minutes today. Sit down. No phone. No music. No agenda. Just quiet. See what surfaces when you stop being so loud.</p><p><em>The Shift</em> &#8212; Tim's new book &#8212; releases March 15, 2026. <strong><a href="https://a.co/d/02yUBQNO">Order here</a></strong>.</p><p>Connect with Tim: <strong><a href="http://blog.timothyeldred.com">Substack</a></strong><a href="http://blog.timothyeldred.com">: Square Peg Round Hole</a> or at <strong><a href="http://timothyeldred.com">timothyeldred.com</a></strong>.</p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.28 | The Framework: How S.H.I.F.T. Works]]></title><description><![CDATA[Last week, this episode didn't drop.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep28-the-framework-how-shift-works-ad7</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep28-the-framework-how-shift-works-ad7</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 09 Mar 2026 14:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209804/4e27941339b5e9341f2275b85e776c58.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Last week, this episode didn't drop. Life made other plans&#8212;an unplanned flight to Minnesota, a father-in-law in the hospital, a week that looked nothing like the schedule. And the framework held.</p><p>Not because circumstances cooperated. Because the rhythms were built before the crisis hit. That's the difference between a strategy and a system. And it's exactly what this episode is about.</p><p>Today, Tim walks through all five phases of S.H.I.F.T.&#8212;the full architecture of the book&#8212;and explains why the sequence isn't optional. Why skipping steps doesn't save time. And why most transformation efforts stall not from lack of effort but from wrong order of operations.</p><p><em>The Shift</em> releases March 15. <strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GDS5K867?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_FHDE7Z9NPYXB0NAQJBPC&amp;bestFormat=true">Pre-order on Amazon</a></strong>.</p><p><strong>SHOW NOTES</strong></p><p>Most people approach transformation like a buffet. Take what resonates. Leave what doesn't. Do it in whatever order feels right.</p><p>Your nervous system doesn't work that way.</p><p>In this episode, Tim Eldred walks through the complete S.H.I.F.T. framework&#8212;not as theory, but as architecture&#8212;and makes the case that sequence is everything. Each phase creates the biological conditions the next phase requires. Skip one, and you're not just moving slower. You're building on a foundation that isn't there.</p><p><strong>Tim Covers:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Why you can't do story work while your body is in survival mode&#8212;and what happens when you try</p></li><li><p>The real job of the Safety phase (it's not calm&#8212;it's signal)</p></li><li><p>How loops stay invisible until the nervous system settles enough to surface them</p></li><li><p>What Integration actually means&#8212;and why it's not about your morning routine</p></li><li><p>Why breakthroughs have a half-life of about 72 hours and rhythms don't</p></li><li><p>What a regulated nervous system does to the room&#8212;not just to you</p></li></ul><p>On cold showers&#8212;because someone always asks:</p><p>They don't get easier. The cold doesn't go away. That's not the point. The point is what happens to your startle response over time. Your body learns to take the hit and return to baseline. Faster and faster. And that same skill fires when a phone call comes out of nowhere and the news is bad. You've practiced this. Hundreds of times.</p><p><strong>Try this before the next episode:</strong></p><p>&#8594; Notice the first loop that surfaces in a low-stakes moment this week&#8212;a small frustration, a flicker of self-criticism. Don't chase it. Just name it.&nbsp;</p><p>&#8594; Keep your morning anchor for five consecutive days. Not because of how it feels. Because consistency is how you send the signal.</p><p><em>The Shift</em>&#8212;Tim's new book&#8212;releases March 15, 2026. <strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GDS5K867?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_FHDE7Z9NPYXB0NAQJBPC&amp;bestFormat=true">Pre-order here</a></strong>.</p><p>Want early access and behind-the-scenes content before launch? <strong><a href="http://launch.theshiftplan.com">Join the launch team</a></strong>.</p><p>Connect with Tim: <strong>Substack</strong>: <a href="http://blog.timothyeldred.com">Square Peg Round Hole</a> or <a href="http://timothyeldred.com">timothyeldred.com</a></p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep. 27 | Why You're Stuck (And It's Not What You Think)]]></title><description><![CDATA[You've tried the programs.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep-27-why-youre-stuck-and-its-not-efc</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep-27-why-youre-stuck-and-its-not-efc</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 27 Feb 2026 14:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209805/0dca28fe89a9bc8c17e9d7e4773f6ab7.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You've tried the programs. Hired the coaches. Read the books. Set the goals. And something still won't move.</p><p>The personal development industry has a very convenient explanation for that: you. Your mindset. Your discipline. Your willingness to do the work.</p><p>They're wrong. And in this episode, Tim Eldred names the thing nobody in that industry wants to say out loud&#8212;because saying it blows up the business model.</p><p>The reason most transformation efforts fail isn't bad ideas or weak willpower. It's that they're being applied to a body that isn't ready to receive them. A nervous system stuck in survival mode can't build new habits. Can't think creatively. Can't change. The biology won't allow it.</p><p>Tim breaks down the science&#8212;without the jargon&#8212;and gives you four specific inputs that speak directly to your survival system. No purchase required.</p><p>The Shift releases March 15. <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GDS5K867">Pre-order on Amazon</a>.</p><p><strong>SHOW NOTES</strong></p><p>Why does lasting change feel impossible&#8212;even when you're doing everything right?</p><p>In this episode, Tim Eldred goes after the real reason: not your character, not your discipline, not your willingness to do the work. The problem is biological. When your nervous system is stuck in survival mode&#8212;fight, flight, or freeze&#8212;the brain regions you need to build habits, regulate emotions, think clearly, and actually change are neurologically offline. Not impaired. Offline.</p><p><strong>Tim breaks down:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Why the personal development industry is built on a loop that protects itself by blaming you&nbsp;</p></li><li><p>The science behind why mindset-first approaches have a ceiling (and why nobody selling them will tell you)&nbsp;</p></li><li><p>What polyvagal theory and The Body Keeps the Score actually mean for your daily life &#8212; in plain English&nbsp;</p></li><li><p>Four nervous system inputs that bypass your thinking brain entirely: morning light, coherent breathing, cold exposure, and blood sugar regulation</p></li></ul><p>This isn't wellness content. These are interventions that speak directly to the survival system no amount of mindset work has been able to reach.</p><p><strong>Try this tomorrow morning:</strong>&nbsp;</p><p>&#8594; Get outside within the first hour of waking &#8212; 5 to 10 minutes of sunlight on your face&nbsp;</p><p>&#8594; Eat 30g of protein before coffee&nbsp;</p><p>&#8594; Three minutes of coherent breathing: 6 seconds in, 6 seconds out</p><p>Your body will start to respond before your mind understands why.</p><p><strong>Researchers mentioned in this episode:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Dr. Stephen Porges &#8212; Polyvagal Theory</p></li><li><p>Dr. Bessel van der Kolk &#8212; The Body Keeps the Score</p></li><li><p>Dr. Andrew Huberman &#8212; Stanford, circadian and nervous system research</p></li></ul><p><strong>The Shift</strong> &#8212; Tim's new book &#8212; releases March 15, 2026. <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GDS5K867">Pre-order here</a>.</p><p>Want early access and behind-the-scenes content before launch? <a href="https://launch.theshiftplan.com/">Join the launch team</a>.</p><p><strong>Connect with Tim:</strong>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://blog.timothyeldred.com/">Substack</a>: Square Peg Round Hole</p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.26 | You've Been Working on the Wrong System]]></title><description><![CDATA[After an extended absence, Tim is back&#8212;and he's not coming back empty-handed.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep26-youve-been-working-on-the-wrong-bae</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep26-youve-been-working-on-the-wrong-bae</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 23 Feb 2026 19:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209806/1b3cdbf1dd9d57fce35e0a4ac5e6d90f.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>After an extended absence, Tim is back&#8212;and he's not coming back empty-handed.&nbsp;</p><p>A brain aneurysm. A rare nerve condition. A body that stopped cooperating. And 35 years of knowing how to help people change&#8212;none of it working when he was the one who needed to change.</p><p>That's where this starts.</p><p>In this episode, Tim tells the full story he's never told: what broke down, what he found in the science, and what he spent two years building in response. The core insight changed everything he thought he knew about transformation &#8212; and it might change how you think about why you're stuck.</p><p>If you've been doing everything right and something still feels off, this one's for you.</p><p><strong>In this episode:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Why Tim disappeared&#8212;and why it matters</p></li><li><p>Glossopharyngeal neuralgia, a brain aneurysm, and the moment his frameworks failed him in real time</p></li><li><p>The science: polyvagal theory, somatic research, and why the body decides what's possible before the mind gets involved</p></li><li><p>Why you cannot build sustainable change on a dysregulated nervous system</p></li><li><p>The S.H.I.F.T. framework&#8212;what it is and where it came from</p></li></ul><p><strong>Mentioned:</strong> The Shift by Timothy Eldred&#8212;pre-order now, releases March 15 &#8594; <a href="http://theshiftplan.com">theshiftplan.com</a></p><p>Dr. Stephen Porges&#8212;Polyvagal Theory, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk&#8212;The Body Keeps the Score, Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett&#8212;How Emotions Are Made.</p><p><a href="http://launch.theshiftplan.com">Join the Launch Team</a></p><p><a href="http://timothyedred.com">timothyeldred.com</a> | <a href="http://theshiftplan.com">theshiftplan.com</a></p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.25 | Finding True Identity with Guest Beth Abbott]]></title><description><![CDATA[In this conversation, Tim talks with Beth Abbott who shares her journey of hitting rock bottom and finding redemption.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep25-finding-true-identity-with-guest-3a4</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep25-finding-true-identity-with-guest-3a4</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 09 May 2024 16:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209807/b2dfa6d9c4078c8febf074084d25fed3.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In this conversation, Tim talks with Beth Abbott who shares her journey of hitting rock bottom and finding redemption. She discusses the events that led to her national news coverage, including a DUI accident that injured pedestrians. Beth opens up about her struggles with depression, PTSD, and hiding her sexuality. She talks about the pressure she felt to meet others' expectations and how she used alcohol and desensitization as coping mechanisms. She discusses the internal battle between her heart and head, where her heart knows she is a good person but her head doubts her worth. The conversation highlights the importance of seeking help and finding one's true identity.</p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.24 | Two Words: Slow Down]]></title><description><![CDATA[You don&#8217;t want to miss this episode. In my opinion anyway (but I&#8217;m biased).]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep24-two-words-slow-down-697</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep24-two-words-slow-down-697</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 09 Mar 2023 17:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209808/44648022597ee6fd1343f30cad29b14b.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>You don&#8217;t want to miss this episode.</strong> In my opinion anyway (but I&#8217;m biased).</p><p>Clearly, I&#8217;ve been away from the microphone for a few weeks&#8212;much longer than even I expected for sure. But I&#8217;ve had good reason. And the lessons I&#8217;ve been learning during this hiatus have only helped to strengthen what I&#8217;ve been wanting to say to my loyal listeners as I talk openly about my recent experiences.&nbsp;</p><p>As you can ascertain from the title, my emphasis is simple: <strong>slow down</strong>. Sounds easy. It&#8217;s not. <strong>It requires a deliberate decision every day.</strong> But if we would adhere to this logic, we&#8217;d improve our lives and the lives of the people around us&#8212;the whole world to be honest. I can&#8217;t encourage you enough to listen and apply.</p><p>If you&#8217;re interested in finding a greater sense of connection and belonging in your life, this is the best 25 minutes you can spend today. <strong>I promise!</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.23 | Move Your Ass]]></title><description><![CDATA[Sometimes life feels insurmountable.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep23-move-your-ass-8a3</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep23-move-your-ass-8a3</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 01 Dec 2022 18:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209809/c3660b1a13e5069dbcdd17a309b50982.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sometimes life feels insurmountable. Those are the moments when you don't believe you have the strength or stamina to overcome the obstacles in your path&#8212;the seasons when you seriously consider giving up.<br><br>You're not alone. We all face seasons in life when molehills feel like mountains. But there's always hope if we will learn to pause long enough to catch our breath and recalibrate to do the climb that lies ahead of us.<br><br>When you don't feel confident or capable, you should tell yourself a different story with a better ending than the one you imagine. In this episode, I want to share some ABCs to help motivate you to keep moving.<br><br><br></p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.22 | Bet On Yourself]]></title><description><![CDATA["If it doesn't bring you peace, profit, or purpose, then don't give it your time, energy, or attention." &#8212;Unknown]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep22-bet-on-yourself-500</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep22-bet-on-yourself-500</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 27 Oct 2022 04:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209810/4f19d67d4dfb336e25ebee2da4d94274.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>"If it doesn't bring you peace, profit, or purpose, then don't give it your time, energy, or attention."</em> &#8212;Unknown<br><br>I posted that quote on social media over the last few days. As you might suppose, the response was affirming. Because it just makes sense, right?&nbsp;<br><br>So why does such simple wisdom appear to be so difficult to implement in our lives? Why do we give our time, energy, and attention away so easily?<br><br>I tackle these questions in this episode and attempt to offer some practical suggestions that can provide perspective we can all implement.</p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.21 | Is Your Pain Self-Inflicted?]]></title><description><![CDATA[No one likes to admit the possibility they might create the majority of their own problems or that they are the source of their own pain.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep21-is-your-pain-self-inflicted-de9</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep21-is-your-pain-self-inflicted-de9</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 13 Oct 2022 04:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209811/19c4a8938704e0bbf36a018817119103.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>No one likes to admit the possibility they might create the majority of their own problems or that they are the source of their own pain. Even considering the idea is slightly embarrassing. Or shameful. <br><br>But is it true?<br><br>I hate to be the one to tell you, but it&#8217;s true. Most of our pain is self-inflicted.<br><br>Deliberately? Not usually. Inadvertently? Most likely. <br><br>Until we even ponder that possibility, we'll continue to suffer unnecessarily in areas completely within our control. This is true for both our internal and external battles. And it's especially true for our relational challenges and well-being.<br><br>Our personal struggles&#8212;private and public&#8212;are more solvable than we can imagine when we learn to recognize the signs of emotional self-harm. In this episode, <a href="http://timothyeldred.com">Timothy Eldred</a> unpacks three easily-remedied, self-harm behaviors that can improve your life once you learn to recognize the signs. They might be easier to change than you think.<br><br>- - -<br><br><strong>SHOW NOTES<br><br></strong>During the episode, Tim addresses some self-harm behaviors. Here's a list of the three he mentions and a few more to consider for your life:</p><ul><li><p><em>Pretending</em></p></li><li><p><em>Sharing with people who can't support you*</em></p></li><li><p><em>Not asking for what you need*</em></p></li><li><p><em>Judging yourself harshly</em></p></li><li><p><em>Being inauthentic</em></p></li><li><p><em>Thinking negatively about yourself</em></p></li><li><p><em>Preoccupying yourself with other people's lives</em></p></li><li><p><em>Expecting things to be perfect</em></p></li><li><p><em>Allowing fear to stop you</em></p></li><li><p><em>Choosing to remain silent</em></p></li><li><p><em>Complaining without changing what you can control*</em></p></li></ul><p>If you have thoughts or questions about any of these behaviors, please send an email to: <a href="mailto:podcast@timothyeldred.com">podcast@timothyeldred.com</a>.&nbsp; We may address them in a future episode for everyone's benefit. Your voice matters, and we always appreciate hearing from you.<br><br>- - -<br><br>Here are additional resources you may want to read for insight into this issue:</p><ul><li><p><a href="https://myonlinetherapy.com/emotional-self-harm/">https://myonlinetherapy.com/emotional-self-harm/</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://themighty.com/topic/self-harm/types-of-self-harm">https://themighty.com/topic/self-harm/types-of-self-harm</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/speakingoutaboutselfinjury/2020/6/can-self-harm-be-emotional">https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/speakingoutaboutselfinjury/2020/6/can-self-harm-be-emotional</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/happiness-is-state-mind/201908/emotional-self-harm-people-pleasing-can-ruin-your-happiness">https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/happiness-is-state-mind/201908/emotional-self-harm-people-pleasing-can-ruin-your-happiness</a></p></li></ul><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.20 | Shut Up and Relax]]></title><description><![CDATA[Does that title sound a bit harsh?]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep20-shut-up-and-relax-035</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep20-shut-up-and-relax-035</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 30 Sep 2022 04:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209812/95d53cf9d86aed5b806c626a04ba8f6b.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Does that title sound a bit harsh? Well, it is certainly abrupt. Why? Because sometimes there's no sugarcoating the truth. And the truth can hurt. But there are times we need someone to speak boldly and get our attention. That's what I hope to do for us in this episode.&nbsp;<br><br>My goal is to both challenge and encourage us all to remember the power we possess&#8212;the power of choice. We can choose what we listen to. And who we listen to. We have control over our minds and our mouths. So instead of getting all wound up with all the news and noise of the world and believing the worst about ourselves and others, perhaps it's time to learn to wind down. Especially in light of the growing anxiety people are experiencing today.<br><br>So shut up and relax isn't just a title. It's a prescription to reclaim your life.<br><br></p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.19 | Too Much Thinking]]></title><description><![CDATA[We overthink.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep19-too-much-thinking-d32</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep19-too-much-thinking-d32</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 08 Sep 2022 04:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209813/7a81a5e9010030ad2a68b8a6a6814d69.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>We overthink. </strong><br><br>And the thoughts bouncing around in our brains shape our world and become our reality. We also take life too seriously. Is it any wonder we are so emotionally stressed and uptight?&nbsp;<br><br>What would happen if we chose to relax, care less, and see life as a beautiful gift? Because it is precisely that, my friends. That truth is available for everyone to experience every single day.<br><br>You don't have to take everything so serious or let others' thoughts dictate your days which means you don&#8217;t have to:</p><ul><li><p>Pretend to agree with everyone</p></li><li><p>Take responsibility for how others feel</p></li><li><p>Apologize often</p></li><li><p>Always say yes</p></li><li><p>Feel uncomfortable if someone disapproves of you</p></li><li><p>Act like the people around you</p></li><li><p>Need praise to feel good</p></li><li><p>Go to great lengths to avoid conflict</p></li><li><p>Succumb to the pressure of fitting in</p></li><li><p>Believe you are less than others</p></li><li><p>Tolerate toxic people</p></li></ul><p>The choice to abandon these behaviors is <strong>100% </strong>yours. No one else controls you. But only you can lighten up and stop overthinking. With that list in mind, here are a couple of questions:</p><ol><li><p>Who is the person I am being in my life and showing the world? And how much of that person is the truth of who I am?</p></li><li><p>How am I using my public persona to hide my authentic self, and why do I feel the need to hide it?</p></li><li><p>Do I feel a disconnection between the person I pretend to be in the world and the person I connect with more deeply inside myself?</p></li><li><p>What would it look like for me to take off the mask and live more authentically?</p></li></ol><p>I'm excited for you to listen today and find some long-needed freedom on your path to living with authenticity in an artificial world.</p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.18 | Take One Small Step]]></title><description><![CDATA[Most of the time, many people who are trying to make significant and lasting changes in their life do one major thing wrong&#8212;they go too far too fast.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep18-take-one-small-step-190</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep18-take-one-small-step-190</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 22 Aug 2022 04:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209814/f84e5b8cfb0a8ba527f358c5a66c4c5e.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Most of the time, many people who are trying to make significant and lasting changes in their life do one major thing wrong&#8212;they go too far too fast. It's like quitting a habit cold turkey. You are either going to fail now or relapse later because you bit off more than you can chew.<br><br>Well, breaking free from the acceptance of others is even harder because of the emotional addictions we suffer from in life that keep us hooked on the praise and applause of people. And while we are busy living for the approval of others, we're dying a little bit inside.<br><br>The more and more we sacrifice our identity to gain acceptance, the less and less of us is left. So how do you move ahead as your authentic self in a world that requires you to be someone you're not? Slowly. One step at a time is the recipe for finally being free to be you. Or just be.<br><br></p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.17 | Don’t Put on Your Face]]></title><description><![CDATA[Have you heard the phrase (or used the phrase) I need to put on my face?]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep17-dont-put-on-your-face-d63</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep17-dont-put-on-your-face-d63</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 04 Aug 2022 04:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209815/95c837cfd3c0b39f0faa2e0e0bf00780.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Have you heard the phrase (or used the phrase) I need to put on my face? It&#8217;s an idiom about putting on makeup; however, the concept can be applied in much broader terms. Because we all put on a &#8220;face&#8221; of sorts. Our face (or public persona) is the outward identity we reveal to others which may or may not portray the true, authentic you.&nbsp;<br><br>In this episode, I talk about the idea of not only taking off your mask but actually choosing to not even put on your face in the first place. What would happen in the world if we followed this challenge? What if we let other people see our blemishes and brokenness? Would we be better as a society? Would we be healthier as the human race?<br><br>If you&#8217;ve listened in the past, you already know my answer to those facetious questions. If you&#8217;re new to Square Peg Round Hole, welcome. You&#8217;re about to know my answer, too. But regardless of how long you&#8217;ve been listening, I believe you will be brave enough to break some rules to become your true, authentic self in this artificial world. Cheers!</p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.16 | It's Not My Fault, Dammit.]]></title><description><![CDATA[Have you noticed that it's nobody's fault anymore?]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep16-its-not-my-fault-dammit-e6a</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep16-its-not-my-fault-dammit-e6a</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 07 Jul 2022 09:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209816/99c3f8f51d45e3c8440abbf2004cdf06.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Have you noticed that it's nobody's fault anymore? No one is responsible. For anything. Personal responsibility is becoming ancient history. It's no longer a virtue we value. <br><br>Everyone wants to fight for their rights. But few want to be held accountable for their behavior. For their personal choices. Does life actually work that way? Has it ever?&nbsp; <br><br>I'm wading into that idea today with a point of view that the lack of personal responsibility is the greatest threat facing humanity. Not terrorism. No pandemics. Not climate change. <br><br>And yes. I'll take responsibility for my words. &#128514;<br><br><strong>SHOW LINKS:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="http://hopepartners.org/">Hope Partners International</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://markmanson.net/the-prime-belief">The Prime Belief | Article by Mark Manson</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/0062457713/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1468352752&amp;sr=8-1-fkmr0&amp;keywords=subtle+art+of+not+giving+a+fuck&amp;linkCode=sl1&amp;tag=entsblo-20&amp;linkId=a81bfe2b59e0df18b29f6d08a6c2db00">The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F@$k</a></p></li></ul><p>Comments? Questions? I'd love to hear from you.</p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.timothyeldred.com/contact">Contact Timothy Eldred</a></p></li></ul><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.15 | Love: Feeling, Choice, Both, Other?]]></title><description><![CDATA[What is love anyway?]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep15-love-feeling-choice-both-other-b5d</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep15-love-feeling-choice-both-other-b5d</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 23 Jun 2022 04:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209817/b050398855e401e5d51463942ae0c6a0.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What is love anyway? Has it been so exploited or so poorly explained that we really have no idea anymore? Maybe our ideas about love are the very reason we don't understand it in a healthy way. Or perhaps it's only my perspective on the whole subject that is wrong. Who knows? But either way, that's my focus on this episode for your consideration. My goal is to be encouraging, but I'm fine with challenging our thinking on the topic as well because there's obviously room for improvement in our world where love seems to be misconstrued&#8212;or just missing.<br><br><strong>SHOW LINKS:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="http://hopepartners.org">Hope Partners International</a></p></li><li><p><a href="http://thecomplementor.com">The CompleMentor</a></p></li></ul><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.14 | Broken Beyond Repair]]></title><description><![CDATA[The &#8216;middle ground&#8217; of compromise is becoming scarcer and scarcer.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep14-broken-beyond-repair-7e5</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep14-broken-beyond-repair-7e5</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 09 Jun 2022 12:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209818/a04c68fb0de536105870ab1e1e834caf.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The &#8216;middle ground&#8217; of compromise is becoming scarcer and scarcer. Tolerance&#8212;once a cherished concept in our world&#8212;has disappeared from our human vernacular.&nbsp;</p><p>We are a harshly divided world. Is that the way it has always been? Or is it getting increasingly worse? Are we broken beyond repair? Is there a bridge from the chasm of conflict to one of decency and dignity? We&#8217;d better start answering these questions.<br><br>In this episode, I will attempt to address those daunting questions with some ancient wisdom. And I will offer a common sense solution as well&#8212;a solution completely within our power that has existed as the cure for our greatest human crises since the dawn of time. Maybe this episode can become a catalyst for compromise and change.</p><p>If nothing else, perhaps it will spark some much-needed dialogue few are willing to have in our world today because it goes beyond the surface to the heart of the matter.</p><p><br><strong>SPONSOR: </strong><a href="http://hopepartners.org">Hope Partners International</a></p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.13 | It's Worth the Investment]]></title><description><![CDATA[Life is change.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep13-its-worth-the-investment-022</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep13-its-worth-the-investment-022</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 19 May 2022 04:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209819/c24bbcae43d6eb8a3580499eb2df89e2.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Life is change. And change is hard. That about sums it up, right. Every time we turn around we have to adjust to some occurrence in the world&#8212;or in our personal world at least. Obviously, that's not a newsflash. But how do you make good decisions when it comes to inevitable change? How do you discern where to invest your time, energy, and emotions and pivot to experience the greatest benefit? That's the heart of the question I want to discuss with you in this episode, as I challenge you to consider the difference between spending and investing.&nbsp; What would happen if we paused as long to think about how we expend our emotional, physical, and spiritual energies as we do our financial resources. Would we see a greater return with life-changing results? I say the answer is absolutely&#8212;yes!</p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep.12 | Talking About Change with Dai Manuel]]></title><description><![CDATA[Here are two truths: 1) Everyone has a story.]]></description><link>https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep12-talking-about-change-with-dai-950</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://blog.timothyeldred.com/p/ep12-talking-about-change-with-dai-950</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Timothy Eldred]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 05 May 2022 04:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/194209820/2bba5e2508eeea7d888a3b7729bf516a.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Here are two truths: 1) Everyone has a story. 2) Change is hard. On this episode, my guest, <a href="http://daimanuel.com">Dai Manuel</a>, discusses both of these realities from his life.&nbsp; Our conversation is honest and practical for anyone seeking any kind of holistic transformation: body, mind, and spirit. If you&#8217;re looking to make changes to your life, please listen and also check out his simple but effective programs and training. I am on day 10 of his 28-day challenge right now and loving the impact this simple routine is having on my life already.&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/895195/fan_mail/new">Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!</a></p><p>Thanks for listening. Please follow on <a href="http://facebook.com/timothyeldred">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://instagram.com/timothyeldred">Instagram</a>, and <a href="http://twitter.com/timothyeldred">Twitter</a>. You can learn more about Tim&nbsp;<a href="http://timothyeldred.com">here</a>.</p>]]></content:encoded></item></channel></rss>